This Is Us

The eternal struggle between ‘reward people’ and ‘punishment people’

Shadows of an older person and younger person walking together.
Shadows of an older person and younger person walking together.
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How I almost died after developing a perineal abscess

Illustration: Nikita Klimov


My looks have been declining in increments of celebrity look-alikes.

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Lived Through This

My internal struggle as men at the gym keep trying to adopt me

Illustration of a really buff blue-skinned athletic person against a black background with red squiggles.
Illustration of a really buff blue-skinned athletic person against a black background with red squiggles.
Illustration: Nikita Klimov


I love it but I wish I didn’t

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The things I overlook when my friends and I talk about how “adult” we’ve become.

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The new controversial testing policy in South Korea has rubbed many privileged people the wrong way.

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A simple guide for older men trying to figure out what they’re doing wrong.

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1. You have a bad personality.

Scenario # 1: You’re kind of a dick.


Nobody understands this deeply weird phenomenon — least of all my mother.

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A few of the certainties I’ve learned over a long mistake filled career in the bedroom.

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Benjamin Davis

Columnist and author. My writing is like a bunch of people at a party trying to tell different jokes at the same time. benjamindavis.substack.com

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