Haha thank you for this. I am actually writing a piece now about how far down this rabbit hole I’ve gone. I kinda decided to say fuck it to any shame and see what masturbation is like when you pull out all the stops and try different toys. I think a lot of the shame comes from trying to hide it. I’ve noticed that most people respond positively to the idea when you really break it down and point out: really, why not? Even my family has read my various essays on it and they just think it’s hilarious. Why shouldn’t we be experimenting with ourselves. We accessorize freaking everything we own, yet we still masturbate like monkeys? Nah that’s silly. And then the “yeah but then you’ll not want sex as much” to which I wonder, “Wait! You’re not accessorizing your sex already? Oh dear.”

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