I think you’re right that it was about trying to impress us which established it as some weird metric for impressiveness among certain men. The thing is, a lot of the responsible people in my life simply didn’t talk about it at all. It was like, only the irresponsible people were doling out demented advice and stories. The people who were mature were also awkward about sex and never said anything. No open conversations or birds and bees talks. I think just any mature conversation would have helped. I also went to an all-boys catholic school so even when they spoke of sex there in health class, it was very male-centric and punctuated by teenage boys joking without much backlash.